tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541500.post4009998963495683401..comments2024-03-29T11:29:58.276+09:00Comments on BigHominid's Hairy Chasms: 9/11 and sudden lossKevin Kimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01328790917314282058noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541500.post-89087497261630972552013-09-12T06:45:37.547+09:002013-09-12T06:45:37.547+09:00A thoughtful and thought-provoking post.
The para...A thoughtful and thought-provoking post.<br /><br />The parallels between our respective mothers' premature passing are all too numerous. In our case, we had roughly four months to deal with the facts on the ground, and it was only in the final three or four weeks that the rapid nature of Mom's illness progression revealed itself.<br /><br />Still and all, we had time to acclimate ourselves to the situation... and to say our farewells. For the families affected by 9/11, there were no such opportunities - or if there were, they were limited to a few breathless moments on a cell phone.<br /><br />A dozen years, and it still hurts. And in my mother's case, it's been 25+ years, a dull ache now but still there.Elissonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06299361897381169534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541500.post-67294196236589611502013-09-12T02:09:05.182+09:002013-09-12T02:09:05.182+09:00You might be scratching your head and asking yours...You might be scratching your head and asking yourself what difference, if any, exists between <i>denial</i> and <i>disbelief.</i> Off the cuff, I'd say that disbelief, which arrives at the same time as shock, is perhaps a species of denial, but its intensity and brevity are enough to give the emotion its own separate label. Like shock, disbelief hits hard and fast, then fades away.<br /><br />Denial, meanwhile, is a bit longer-term. As mindsets go, denial is something <i>into which one settles</i>—a track or a rut that comes to dominate one's ways of thinking and acting. Denial remains after the initial shock and disbelief have faded, and unlike disbelief, which arises unbidden, denial requires something of a conscious mental and emotional effort to sustain.<br /><br />That's how I see the distinction between disbelief and denial.Kevin Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01328790917314282058noreply@blogger.com