Having class isn't just about being polite. Any insincere fool can fake that. True classiness combines politeness, refinement, sophistication, and a benevolent disposition not prone to loud conflict (or loudness at all). The video below explores the "classy" personality.
Trait #1 in the video is one I can relate to: use people's names correctly. I know a few people who call me "Kev"—a nickname I hate—despite my never having invited them to do so. They just started doing it, somehow thinking that would be okay. Every time they do, it feels like what it is: a rude, crass breach of etiquette. Should I call such people "Shiteater" or "Scrotelicker" in return? #3 is a huge problem in Korea: people who say they're going to do something, then fail to follow through. This undercuts trustworthiness and makes a person look like garbage. If you've honestly forgotten something, feel bad about it, and do something to make up for it, that's one thing. But if you fail to follow through after saying you're going to do something—whether you've formally promised to do it or not—you are now on my shit list. Oh, yeah: I admit I'm guilty of a few of the sins on the complete list. I lack class, too.
Wow! I didn't even know I was such a shiteater. I sincerely apologize for my abbreviation of your name. It never even occurred to me that you found that rude. My son's name is Kevin, and I often call him Kev; it just seemed a natural and informal way to address him. I wish you had said something the first time I took that liberty with your name. Needless to say, it will not happen again.
ReplyDeleteThe point about classiness is that it shouldn't be up to me to provide a warning.
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