Monday, May 04, 2015

comments closed

Some of you may have noticed that you're no longer able to leave comments in my "the right to marry" post. That's because I closed comments for that thread. A friend of mine, on Twitter, just linked to the following wisdom about how to argue respectfully and charitably, quoting psychologist and game theorist Anatol Rapoport:

1. You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, "Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way."
2. You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement).
3. You should mention anything you have learned from your target.
4. Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.

This spirit was absent from that thread, and to be honest, I should have killed the thread sooner than I did.



  1. I'm perfectly fine with being respectful and charitable but only when the opposition deserves it.

  2. I did try to walk that line. I'm too old to be that aggressive these days.

    If I did step over it, I'll apologize to you and all concerned here. My intent was to have a dialogue, not to start or perpetuate an argument.

  3. Hey, Kevin, here's a bit of squabbling over the love of the force. Those Disney overlords are something else.



All comments are subject to approval before they are published, so they will not appear immediately. Comments should be civil, relevant, and substantive. Anonymous comments are not allowed and will be unceremoniously deleted. For more on my comments policy, please see this entry on my other blog.

AND A NEW RULE (per this post): comments critical of Trump's lying must include criticism of Biden's lying on a one-for-one basis! Failure to be balanced means your comment will not be published.